Open letter -

Dandavats.

If you share a concern over my burden of work, then please consider spending time reflecting on how to relieve it on your own part through introspection and subsequent activities. If you observe someone's behavior towards you changing over time, please spend time reflecting on possible reasons for that.

I believe I have given you a good many tips in the course of our exchanges that would in all likelihood cut down on a good deal of the conflicts you've faced in your exchanges with numerous devotees. When I see that what was said on one day becomes forgotten on the next, then how can you expect me to extend the same courtesies without an end? I am not a miracle man, I do not have infinite patience or energy.

May I ask, why do you insist on doing all this processing before the grand public? You place your heart before a thousand observers, and then you complain if it hurts.

If someone is interested in the context of this statement, it appears in a PM in response to the following message from Tarun Govinda:


Here are the exact words of Rasaraja in response to the above:


If you want to drag all of this into the public arena, then people should see both sides of the story. I understand that a factor in wanting to make all of this public is a desire to be understood and to receive sympathy. However, - that is, if you really want to go down that alley - please remember to present both sides of the story and give contexts to events and statements.

I remember being a young devotee and feeling like my standard of behavior had to represent the movement and my spiritual master. I think a lot of us tried to artificially pretend and behave as if we were more advanced, peaceful, compassionate, calm, etc., then we actually were. I remember we also pressured each other to hold to that artificial standard. Of course it's hard to make genuine progress when you don't start with what is real.

I find myself wondering if part of the unspoken tension here is being frustrated with Tarun because he doesn't immediately display the effects or advancement of the traditional GV path in the way you would prefer him to?

I'm not saying that is the case, I can't know your hearts and minds. I just wonder.

I see in all of these exchanges something more personal going on here than usual moderator/member interactions. If it's really become so heated from past interactions, maybe a break is needed for all parties.

Tapati, it isn't about becoming perfect overnight. It's about learning to recognize one's limits and attempting to stay out of situations one recognizes as almost invariably leading to unpleasant exchanges in which someone's going to feel hurt in the end.

If we all followed this advice, we certainly wouldn't have become moderators!

First of all, what is immature with this?



So, it is not arrogant to answer like this:




Ok, be it as you said, your honour.

I deeply apologize for disturbing the moderators that much.
Please forgive my offenses.
I hope we can be nice with each other when we meet again.

Dear Madhava,
please CLOSE my account. For good.
No, I am not slamming the door.
With lowered head, I quietly leave.
Please do it as soon as possible and dont ask me if am sure to do this.
I am.
Following your good advice.

I hope you are not so pissed with me and again I thank you for all.

See you in Vraja


Tarunji

Since this is now the god-knows-how-manieth-time, I'll oblige and remove your account right away. Thank you for all of your contributions in the forums.

As a general principle, if you want to have your account closed, want to have it done immediately and declare it in a public post, please don't include questions in the same post.

Since Tarun Govinda's account is now closed, please direct any follow-ups on his posts above directly to his e-mail address, do not discuss them in this thread.